Does Ethical Financial Domination Exist ?
Financial play is the eroticism of monetary control.
When it’s boiled down, financial domination is a unique form of edge play, because while you can’t be physically injured from money play, your bank account CAN. This is where the eroticism lies. The concept that a Dominant Woman can take control of your money and by proxy have power over you can be extremely erotic.
Everyone has a relationship with money. Wether or not they can admit it, most people attribute money to power, and like it or not those two concepts are synonymous in our world.
According to most kinksters, the art of Findom is still pretty taboo. The bulk of Fin-doms are young 20 somethings who think they can make a quick buck off being hot and bratty. They usually aren’t interested or knowledgeable about kink. For the most part this style of “findom” dominates the market. Having met many glorified sugar babies in My career I’ve found their motivations are inherently different from the traditional Femdom community, and their knowledge about kink/ the D/s dynamic is almost nonexistent. It’s unfortunate too because those “pick me” 20yr olds have no idea how truly illuminating and exhilarating true Domination can be.
Most “FINDOMS” make Financial play a simple little game like:
“send Me x amount for ME to even consider talking to you…” or “give Me all of your rent money!”
— While this is cool and all, the modern “findom” is a bratty sugar baby missing out on the real power play.
From My perspective financial play could look something like:
“don’t eat out for a month so you can buy Me that pair of Louboutin’s ”
or on an extreme level could be taking complete control over your bank account so you become an indentured slave to My will.
For the first several years of My career/ lifestyle as a Dominatrix I was cautious to openly admit that I practice financial domination because of the negative stigma. I didn’t want to be lumped in with the “pick-me sugar baby types” I’m not that kind of Woman. To Me, Financial Domination as another form of domination, and because I am a professional Domina there is already a financial element involved with My play. The truth is I have always had kink for controlling you, and by proxy a nasty little money kink. In a weird way, some elements of Findom are sort of like gambling. You know that anticipatory gut wrenching excitement people get when their money is on the line? Some people equate it to feeling high.
The game is risk, and the erotic edge is fear.
But how much is too much?
With financial play in specific there needs to be a lot of transparency and clear communication (something most vanilla couples fail to do with their finances)
“Too much” is defined as….
actually bankrupting someone (even if they ask for it)
FORCING a financial dynamic when one party has given up.
breaking a pre-set boundary
Beyond that, I don’t judge whatever two consenting adults agree to do with one another. There is such a fine line between getting right up on your metaphorical edge and crossing it. Kinky play is literally finding your edge and exploring it. The safety within kink largely relies upon the communication and respect of boundaries negotiated ahead of time. The submissive MUST communicate their boundaries, and the Dominant MUST respect them, otherwise there is no trust (trust is the foundation of good kink).
In short YES, you can be ethical while financially dominating someone, but anything in Kink is a two way street. It requires clear communication and established trust.
Are we a good financial fit?
you-
you seek someone they trust to take the reigns and lead them so that they simply can work, and provide
you can be obedient (I don’t like brats)
you desire to relinquish power to Me.
you are ready to financially commit a predesignated amount monthly and be forcibly held accountable to your goals.
you get off on serving your dominant so much that you’re willing to suffer for Me.
If you ever are lucky enough to play with Me, understand that I don’t play for peanuts. If you want kinky play without the financial domination (I do that too), but if you are brave enough to embark into the deliciously erotic game of financial domination know that I’m going to play a twisted longform game of financial chess with your subby brain.
Think of Me as your seductive and controlling accountant, your "money mommy" in a sense. Do you remember when you were a child, given a small allowance but not really having control over your finances? That's how it will be between us in the long term. My personal motivation lies within the financial domination dynamic, focusing on your long-term financial health and My desire for complete control over your mind.
In this dynamic, I take various actions to benefit My long-term financial submissives. This includes investing your money for you, forcing you to save at a higher rate than you were before by tightening the reigns on your bank account.After all I am interested in your longterm financial betterment. Of course I take a portion of your money… spending it according to My whims. While I may engage in twisted mind games such as luxury shopping sprees with their credit cards to keep things exciting, My primary interest lies in the FLR (Female-Led Relationship) dynamic that is built to last.
As a financially-minded woman, I make calculated risks and prioritize steady investments. It is important for any potential submissive to understand that if they seek a hot financial encounter with Me, the answer is yes - but expect Me to have My way with you and to make your wallet ache.
