7 quick tips to have an amazing session with a Dominatrix
Meeting a Dominatrix can be really intimidating, but the last thing everyone wants is a boring scene. Although I as the Dom can bring the energy, it takes two of us to collaborate and create a really meaningful power exchange. In this little article find 7 quick tips to create more impactful and pleasurable BDSM scenes with your Top.
Don’t hold an expectation of how you think things should go.
When you do it’s hard to stay in the moment. Instead focus on Me. Focus on My instructions and in the activities we indulge in. If you find yourself caught up in a specific scene you saw in a porn, or some fantasy in your mind, it’ll be hard to pay attention to the real life things that are happening around you.
Bonus tip: If you have trouble staying grounded, communicate that, and pay attention to things that are happening in the physical space around you. ie. toys, what I’m wearing, what we’re doing, how this moment feels, the seductive twinkle in My eye.
Remember the intention.
You are coming to serve Me. All of the hoops you’ve jumped through to get to this point should reinforce that fact. I thrive off of subservient, worshipful energy. When you bring Me that I am infinitely happier, and will approach you with a far more excitement!
To those who think that it is My job to serve you, unfortunately we aren’t going to get along, and I highly suggest seeing someone else who might be more interested in what you seek.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable
The reason I became a Dominatrix was because I have the greatest sensitivity and care for My subs. It is My chief goal to be your safe space. Trust in that fact, and be open to whatever might take shape over the time that we are together.
Communicate your boundaries, desires, and needs.
While I am extremely intuitive, I am not a mind reader. No one is. If there is something that might turn you off or take you out of the scene it’s good to know. Even if you have to interrupt what’s happening to inform Me. Otherwise I’m going to keep tumbling over the thing that makes you uncomfortable. It would be better for everyone to explore the things that make us feel alive vs the things we don’t like.
Prepare yourself.
Groom, eat light, get excited for this before we meet, and take care of yourself. Bring your best foot forward when you come to meet Me. Doing so and taking the time to prepare yourself sets the intention and tone that you wish to truly serve a Dominant Woman. To prepare even better you could be a top student and do your homework on Me(or the dominant you are serving), I have articles, vlogs, erotica content and more out there for you to see. Learning about who I am and what I’m all about will better inform you on how you can serve Me best.
Remember that real life and porn are NOT the same thing!
Don’t get down on yourself for not “performing” in fact the BDSM space is one area you aren’t expected to “perform” sexually or in any other way. In this space you are expected to do as I say. Nothing more. When you put the expectation to perform like unrealistic pornographic standards, you’re setting everyone up for failure. BDSM in real life is not porn. The two can’t really even compare. Laughing is normal, water breaks are normal, being genuine humans who connect is NORMAL. Keep that in your head, and put the pornographic concept out of mind.
Don’t be a brick wall!
Just as you thrive off of My energy, the way you react inspires Mine. Submissives who throw themselves into the moment are far more exciting than those who are stoic and don’t react. When you have no reaction it’s really hard for Me to tell what’s going on in that little brain of yours. Do you like it? are you scared? are you turned on? Don’t be afraid to speak up, to get loose, and enjoy all of the bliss My dominance brings.
Hope this helps you have more enjoyable kink scenes! If you have any more ideas of how to have a great session with a Dominatrix tweet at Me @thankyouempress
In leather, lace, and grace,
Empress Jazmin Wu
